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Very well put Smelly
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I was wiating for the thirdly.....
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Yeah, I could have moaned on all day lol. I actually feel quite embarrassed about that thread now. I sound like a dictator. |
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Aww I thought it was a very smart post. I wasn't sure if it was about friendship requests in general or something else to do with the chat room (this thread was posted in the chat room forum), but it was a thoughtful post.
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So if it was a good post why delete it and render the thread pointless? I hate it when people do that for apparently no really valid reason, just because they are worried about what others might think. Of course this is a shyness forum, but IMO people here do that kind of thing far too much.
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Thanks Black Mamba, I would have deleted the whole thread if I could. I just sounded like I had thrown all my toys out of the pram!
Ekul - how do you know I haven't tortured any one? Careful, I know where you live - |
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My list could probably have goone on into 3 figures.... |
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Man this forum needs a "thanks" or "like" button. |
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So many people would be too meek to post anything, they would assume they would start getting lots of negative rep, even some of the formerly well respected posters. Think it's particularly bad for SA.
And what about the SA people that are genuinely bad communicators? Lots of negative rep probably will push em a lot closer towards suicide, they would almost certainly stop posting. |
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Well perhaps you're right, i can't personally relate much to internet anxiety except perhaps in the past with one-to-one msn chats. Anyway Shy United is very different, and extremely quiet now. The automatic proboards upgrade did though include a new facebook-style option to 'like' posts, but no-one seems to bother using it. Incidentally like most forums, it also has a clear hierarchy of user titles based on your post count. It causes no problems and is also not allowed here.
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^Hmm you see I find forums like that a little over zealous in creating this false hierarchy. I don't think it makes a difference if you've been here for 10 years or 10 days. I understand that the hierarchy actually doesn't account for much but I think there are quite obvious social implications.
I can imagine a rep system useful for a hyper busy forum like TSR (The Student Room) in highlighting to mods who is a definite trouble maker and whatnot. Not sure it's useful here. I don't know. |
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I can`t think of many things worse (forum related) than a "like" option,hierarchy of any kind for an SA site like this one.
*Chucks in 1p`s worth,I`m on a budget you know* |
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I don't like any of that stuff, partly for aesthetic reasons. Clutter is bad. Post Count and Join Date are irrelevent. Mood is gimmicky. Location is something you would visit a profile to find out, not something that needs to be repeated with every post. "Member" is completely redundant, custom user titles are trite. Signatures are a distraction (I've got one, I know...). I do like avatars though. Unless they're huge!
All I care to see is who posted and when. |
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Having a 'like' feature would cause waaay too many problems here. Imagine if someone posted very frequently and never got a 'like' whilst posts above and below theirs frequently did?
It's very easy to take things personally when you have SA. Of course it's good to challenge our own negative thought patterns and to attempt to take things less personally, but this is an SA forum and we can't force that challenge on to people. We have to cater for people at all stages of recovery. Many people come here because they feel rejected and unliked elsewhere, so the last thing they need is to feel every post they make it being judged on whether it is good enough or not. It's not something we need. If you think a post is particularly great you can just respond to it saying so. |
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^ Good post +1 karma. Move one inch closer to Heaven.
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the rating feature should consist of selecting from an array of celebrities faces. if you hate a post you would select someone like michael winner or gordon ramsay, whereas if you loved it you would choose someone like nicolas cage or ron jeremy. imaging software would create an image combining all of the faces selected by users, morphed together. heres jackson vs mr bean
youd never know how many people had responded and wouldnt be able to tell if they were judging you negatively or not although i suppose it would end in people starting threads like "why do people always respond to my posts with that picture of gary coleman" |
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^LMAO
That's 3 times you've posted pics that have frightened me now! |
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in almost total semi-seriousness, i really seem to be drawn to stuff that people find horrible :3 i just find it stimulating and enjoyable, especially filthy frank, he REALLY stimulates my enjoyment
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Lol. I can't believe a like option is being considered on a SA forum. Would cause havoc. Having said that maybe it would facilitate (constructive) discussion, feedback and development. Yes,I am in favour. I like feedback...as long as it is that I am ace!
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I would hate it - I would keep polishing up my posts checking if they were witty or informative enough. Definitely not a good idea on an SA forum.
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Ok so what are/were the ground rules?
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