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20th October 2022, 14:59
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Really depressed and don't know what to do
Hi there. I have been through a hell of a lot recently and i just don't know how to cope. I had been with my partner for 12 years and we have one child who's 9 and he has additional needs so very hard work. I separated from my ex about 4 months ago although we kept living together for another 2 months and he then decided to move 3 hrs away to where his parents live. Throughout our relationship he was very physically and emotionally abusive towards me and our son saw a lot of it, he was also an alcoholic so would have binge drinking episodes where he could be incredibly aggressive. My ex started seeing someone as soon as he moved away and he was also seeing someone while he was still living with me. I know he's the one that's done wrong but I still feel so hurt how quickly he can just move on. He's also been telling people I cheated on him and I abused him. I'm worried he's telling his new girlfriend that I abused him. It hurts so much he can just deny it. His parents hate me now as well so he's probably told them lies. How do I move forward from this? I feel so alone and I still miss him and the good times. Anyone been through anything similar? I just really need some support. Sometimes I feel angry, sometimes I'm hurt and upset and then other times I just miss him. Please reply. Love shygirl. Xxxx
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20th October 2022, 17:46
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Re: Really depressed and don't know what to do
Sorry to hear you have been going through such a rough time lately,
I know it's going to be harder in some ways without your ex, And you will miss the company and extra help with your son, But I'm wondering if it's actually a positive that this person is out of your life now? From your descriptions it sounds like he was a terribly negative influence on your life, What about your own parents shy girl? Are your own family close enough to help out and lend support? I know it's difficult just now, but I'm sure you'll eventually start feeling better for not having your abusive ex around any more.
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#3
23rd October 2022, 10:44
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Re: Really depressed and don't know what to do
Hello Shygirl
 I've been there, with regretting the company of an ex who was actually hurting me. It comes from low self-esteem and the fear of being alone. Right now, it's all very fresh and raw. Give it time. Time is a great healer. In the end, you will realise that he was bad for you, he was only using you and he's doing the same now with another unsuspecting girl. Please read things on domestic abuse, join groups. I have encouraged you before to contact Women's Aid. I would encourage you again, as they don't only help women out of abusive relationships but they also help them to recover emotionally and rebuild themselves. They also offer help for children who were exposed to abuse. You will come out stronger out of this (this is my hope for you, and why wouldn't you? )
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#4
23rd October 2022, 12:05
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Re: Really depressed and don't know what to do
Hi shy girl
Here are some links, including to where Clumsy has recommended: All have a live online support chat if sa is a barrier to you contacting by phone: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/en#helpline https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/ https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/cri...omestic-abuse/ Hope you're able to reach out for some support .
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#5
23rd October 2022, 17:48
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Re: Really depressed and don't know what to do
^ Have you and your partner been to any kind of mediation with somewhere like Relate? Having someone neutral there while you discuss things can help you see eachother's perspective.
https://www.relate.org.uk/ https://www.relate.org.uk/what-we-do
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