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23rd June 2022, 18:12
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I feel a big issue probably with lots of gen z and late millennials is that we take opinions as facts. I think social media has helped to cause this since we are exposed to more opinions than anyone in the history of mankind. Taking opinions as facts probably partially explains hypersensitivity to statements and comments.
I imagine future generations, maybe even generation alpha, will rebel against this. Sometimes it’s like we are more conformist than we think we are. 
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23rd June 2022, 23:13
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I'm thinking about thinking that I should probably take a break from here soon as I'm spending too much of my valuable time, lol, posting. I could be cleaning the bathroom, or clearing out my cupboards.
I'm also thinking that I wish I hadn't given the mobile hairdresser my phone number because now I will be fretting all night about her calling me tomorrow. Every time the phone rings I'm going to jump out of my skin. However, this hair needs sorting so that I can start watering the flowers in the garden at normal times again. Creeping around in the garden at 4:30 in the morning so that my neighbours don't spot me is utterly ridiculous.
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27th June 2022, 09:44
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^alone it is a distraction but it helps you connect to the outside world, which might help ify you don't have many friends/family around, I understand laptops take over though.
every time I go for a coffee I end up getting patients talking to me about their problems, I'm so glad I'm getting a break.
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27th June 2022, 11:24
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^ I can understand why that might get a bit much at times, but on the other hand it shows that the patients must find you approachable and regard you as a good listener
 @ Alone - What is your laptop distracting you from? I'm thinking that life is made up of distractions - watching tv, reading a book, surfing the internet, posting here, and that's not a bad thing at all unless it's stopping you from getting something important done.
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27th June 2022, 19:06
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I have several emails in my inbox saying someone tried to PM me but my inbox is full. When I look for the user name of the person, they're not on the list. Presumably that means they have not posted yet. There's space in my inbox now, mysterious person!
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28th June 2022, 15:31
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Why is my anxiety always worse in the morning?
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29th June 2022, 01:34
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It's normal for adults to be lonely? I was thinking of a period last year working as a kitchen porter I think I was at my most isolated mentally. As I was doing keto, working in a pub and didn't really make many friends as usual. Was making minimum wage. The work was easy but I had constant headaches at the time that I felt like my constant anxiety may be ruining my body. Then I felt guilty for being anxious, had thoughts that I was a creep to women or that I came off as creepy. I live in a suburb and was travelling to another suburb on either crowded trains or crowded buses whilst being alone. I think an advantage of working in Central London is that it somewhat doesn't feel as isolating. I think London suburbs when busy aren't as busy but are probably more social, than Central London, hence I feel more alone.
I read though that it's normal for adults to be lonely especially when they are 25-35 I think. This makes sense as we are trying to start a family, or are expected to and are finding our feet. Also living alone without much social support would obviously lead to loneliness. But is this right, or manufactured by the way society is ran? I think we all want to be popular or have people that like us, and we all have people that like us, but the reality is that most of us probably don't stand out to people at first glance so are not noticed or even seen as losers.
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29th June 2022, 06:40
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^ Loneliness can affect anyone really. It's a bit of a misconception that it only affect people who are socially isolated. Even someone who has a family and friends can feel lonely. Being a parent can be very lonely. People often seek out others to fill the hole from loneliness, but it's not really about the number of contacts etc. it's the quality of them in terms of support. Some people have friends and family who aren't very supportive or that don't accept something about them. Some people are keeping things secret about themselves and that can be very lonely. Feeling like you're going through something alone and you have to hide it is difficult and lonely. Some people would rather be with someone who isn't very respectful than to be physically alone. A person might not be physically lonely but they might be mentally lonely. Some people might only have a few friends and not feel lonely. It's complicated. There's a strong link with attachments. Choosing to form no attachments to avoid rejection. Forming attachments to people similar to us and becoming codependent because it makes us feel like unhealthy behaviours/thoughts are okay because someone else is the same. Being friends with lots of people but not really anything resembling a strong connection.
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29th June 2022, 08:07
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Thinking about holiday time we've got booked off in about 3 weeks time. Spent months thinking about it but still have nothing booked. Holiday has gone from looking for a quiet villa to probably staying in france in a tent as everything is so expensive. Do I really want to spend 2 weeks in a tent?
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29th June 2022, 10:48
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I’m thinking at the cemetery today that I wish I could of changed places with my mom, she would of been ok without me more than I am without her, she would of got through this, where I can’t even cut a tree down in the garden.
It’s three months today since I held her hand and she passed away, I remember it like it was yesterday it’s brought it all back. I used to say to her that when she died I wouldn’t last long without her and she would say you have to carry on, the problem is I don’t think I can anymore, I’ve lost not just my mother but my best friend and soul mate. Sorry for the rant guys, me and my brain was just thinking.
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29th June 2022, 11:30
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I always assumed it was my body bracing itself for another day of anxiety. The next question is what can I do to get rid of cortisol? 
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29th June 2022, 11:31
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^^ I'm not sure that's true. People say that it's most painful thing to lose a child, even an adult child. I'm sure you wouldn't have wanted your Mum to go through that pain of losing you.
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29th June 2022, 11:45
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^/^^^ Yes, I've also heard that losing a child is the worst pain any human being can suffer so thank goodness for your mum, Quietman, that you didn't go first
 Three months is such a short time. I think the pain you are feeling will ease but it's going to take a long time, especially as you and your mum shared such a close bond. Losing a beloved mum hurts so much. I wish I could find the right words but all I can say is that I understand what you are going through  As your mum told you that she would want you to carry on then I think that's what you need to try to do 
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29th June 2022, 19:11
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Im thinking that it wont be long before the shops start to get the decorations and chocolate in for christmas, only about three months to go considering we are going into July on Friday.
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