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[choirgirl]

I'm 20 years behind in my maturing. Stupid becoming ugly and sa and my own lack of direction. How I wish I could redo most of the noughties.

[Clumsy*]

Originally Posted by Alone.

Is it bad to take life seriously?

No, it's not bad, but taking life too seriously strips the joy off life.
Too much worrying, too much regret, the usual negative patterns I get into.

[3stacks]

Can I become a nice better person or am I stuck like this? I've been a nasty person in the past and I don't ever want to be like that again but I seem to still fall into those bad habits even though I'm trying not to

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[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by Clumsy*

No, it's not bad, but taking life too seriously strips the joy off life.
Too much worrying, too much regret, the usual negative patterns I get into.

I don’t know if I fully agree. Allowing yourself to take it seriously or however you take it would allow joy. Losing, loss or failure is part of life as well as winning and success. I kind of say this because I’m wondering if not taking life serious is holding back, I think it depends on the person. I think what stops joy is when we go against our desires due to fear.

Reading a book on vulnerability is actually making me question some popular cultural beliefs and mentalities.

Thinking about it maybe the answer is about mindfulness or just accepting things as they are, and what we can and can’t control.

[Amara 94]

Right now working in the main restaurant. Usual managers are not there. I’m expected to know what to do but then there isn’t much to do at this particular moment. So most colleagues are small talking. This job isn’t for me.

[Professor Willow]

Does anyone else spend all their time at work thinking about things to do with your time off but then when you are off work can't be bothered?

[cymruambyth26]

My brother just told me he's going to go to a speed dating event on Wednesday. I'm just thinking....gosh I couldn't think of anything more anxiety provoking than that for myself.

He's got no expectations though and will just give it a go. Fair play to him.

[Amara 94]

Why don’t uni’s and schools use audiobooks to learn?

[Dougella]

^ Because they're still stuck on everyone learning in the same way, a lot of the time. People who have diagnoses like dyslexia can use audio books instead I think.

[Rocket Spud]

... And that's the last bank holiday before xmas. Enjoy the rest of your evening.

[anxiouslondoner]

^^ Audio books are very slow. I'd much rather read a paper book.

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by anxiouslondoner

^^ Audio books are very slow. I'd much rather read a paper book.

That’s you, that isn’t everyone. I prefer audio books for example.

[anxiouslondoner]

^ I expect most people of even average reading ability can read a page of text in a fraction of the time it takes someone to say it all. Then if you want to go back you've got to skip and then find the bit you wanted. As opposed to just moving your eyes or skipping through pages.
Audio books are crap for reference. They're OK for stories because they provide atmosphere, and random access is less important.
I believe that the idea of individual learning styles has been debunked.

[Dougella]

^ I suppose it depends what you're reading the book for. I like listening to audio books that are fiction, it's nice to be able to do other things while you listen. But yes it's harder to go back and find a bit you've already listened to.

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by anxiouslondoner

^ I expect most people of even average reading ability can read a page of text in a fraction of the time it takes someone to say it all. Then if you want to go back you've got to skip and then find the bit you wanted. As opposed to just moving your eyes or skipping through pages.
Audio books are crap for reference. They're OK for stories because they provide atmosphere, and random access is less important.
I believe that the idea of individual learning styles has been debunked.

I find audio books easier to listen to than read. Sure we may be able to read faster but some of us see it as a chore which can make reading take much more time.

[Amara 94]

The main thing stopping me from studying Christianity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_n078cvLw8I

[Amara 94]

Autism and feeling unemployable.

I actually took a day off from work today as I found it hard to sleep yesterday. I had to wake up 4am for a 6:30am shift. It’s not because I have sleep problems but because of stress or unresolved conflicts. I haven’t really had sleep issues at my current job but did at my last job so can clearly see the pattern.

With this job I didn’t even get an interview. My manager offered it to me after doing a temp kitchen porter job in my current workplace. But what I do is much different from kitchen portering.

I work as an Events waiter and organise the items needed for the events and clean them up with my team after an event. This summer our department was dead so I was working in the main hotels restaurant and mostly in the Afghan refugee hotel.

Yesterday, I actually had decent sleep so wasn’t tired at my 6:30am shift. I ended up b helping the main restaurant with room service and polishing the glasses, plates and cutlery. I think one thing my brain is good at is logistics. So I was doing a good job. A colleague pointed out how I was fast but I responded I was organised, not necessarily fast, as I find keeping a flow of rhythm with what to wash and polish can make it efficient. For example, in the Afghan refugee hotel I have found that there are more customers than glasses. So sometimes I would wash and polish glasses even if it was only 6 glasses so that they don’t run out of glasses.

Anyways it seemed like the restaurant manager wasn’t happy with me despite doing my job. She appeared somewhat irritated. Offered the two kitchen porters who were working with me Apple Juice but not me. The restaurant colleagues also seem to avoid me. Today I called a sick day to my manager. I know no response is good or better than being told off or sacked but then it also appears careless. I feel my manager only wants me there because his department is understaffed and has had new people quit due to overtime they weren’t properly told about, taking a sick day. I feel my work environment is toxic for me. My manager even has a WhatsApp group that all my department are in except for me.

I have been thinking of going back to a job like kitchen portering. I feel that people looked down more on that but this current job isn’t for me. I can probably do more skilled jobs. Even work with people as it feels good to help people. But I need the support to be able to do such a thing as my anxiety is reduced when I feel truly supported or am less depressed. I can say I was probably better with people although also more awkward, due to less social awareness, as a 10 year old kid as I wasn’t depressed and my anxiety wasn’t as high as it is now.

I feel unemployable as it’s hard to find somewhere where I fit in. I was thinking of how I have disliked certain colleagues as well but they weren’t exactly that nice. I feel somewhat capable but also feel like I can’t display my capability because of how socially awkward I appear but then look normal that I’m expected to act neurotypical and not have anxiety.

Recently quite a few people were terminated from the hotels restaurant. I am sure that one was possibly autistic.

[cymruambyth26]

Goodness, I've managed to save a fair bit of money on my phone bill......this is my thoughts fresh from my head. I got to laugh/smile.

[Merritt]

It's not even September yet and Iceland are rolling out their Christmas sweeties.

[biscuits]

^ reeeesult.

[Stepford]

What shall I do next? I've got to pick up my prescription and buy Paracetamol and I want to buy a large ceramic pot at Waitrose for my water feature project, pretty sure I can't do both. Will the chip shortage ever be over and whether Raspberry Pi Compute Modules will ever be available again?

[Dougella]

^ There's a chip shortage? I had heard that there's going to be a potato shortage.

[Stepford]

^

[Stepford]

How do you make avatars smaller? I resized my boomer avatar 90x90 and it's still the same size.

[SFC01]

Originally Posted by Alone.

To be vulnerable I guess??? Is it bad to take life seriously? I think it’s all about perspective. I think ultimately we should learn to be vulnerable as to reach our potential, feel joy, we need to allow ourselves to be open to pain as well. Something society doesn’t tell us.

Bring authentic us vulnerable and we may be seen as too sensitive or steps by some for that.

Take just a few things that are important to you seriously...and **** all the rest.

Of course, being vulnerable and taking risks lead us to where a lot of the rewards in life are, but it can also make us miserable and joyless if its not for us. I've been there with work and I wouldn't do that ever again.

If you are not the kind of person, right now, to put yourself in vulnerable situations then dont do it. Work on yourself and your development, keep your eyes open and im sure the right opportunities with the level of vulnerability you are comfortable with will come along.

and sometimes perhaps you just have to flick the "**** it" switch, and do it.

[Wham Bam Thank You Jam]

Feeling a bit paranoid. I've lost my house keys today and I have a feeling I might have possibly left them in the front door as I left for work in a rush this morning. I've done that before. Twice. I'm kind of worried someone saw it, nicked it, and waiting until the house is empty to ransack it. And then I'm worried someone will try to enter while we've got the kids at home. And I'm also worried for the thief if they try to enter while I'm the only one at home. I don't know what to do. Unless it's one of you guys that's picked them up, then that's fine. In which case feel free to pop in for a cup of tea. We don't have tea at our place, so you might wanna pick some up on your way. And if you could, get some chicken wings also.

[biscuits]

^ have you found them? I have so many spare keys because I'm forever losing them! At least four times a week I am looking for a misplaced key!

I lost my car key the other day. Next morning, I went to the wheelie bin... and there the key was... on the roof of my car! It had been there all night! All night long. Lionel Ritchie wrote a song about it. Worst of all was that my dad drove my car around with my spare key with the key on the roof.

Is your door one of those that you can't unlock from the outside of there is a key in the lock on the inside? That might offer some extra comfort if you're worried that someone has the key.

[Wham Bam Thank You Jam]

^^ No not found them. It's really bothering me cos I heard that the first 24 hours are the most important in finding house keys that has gone missing. And after the 24 hours, only 5% of lost keys are reunited with their owner. It could be sex trafficked to Albania right now for all I know.

I've conceded that I've lost them. I reckon it happened during my commute to work, cos at one point I was rummaging through my backpack looking for my headphones while waiting for the tube.

[Professor Willow]

Why is it when someone makes you a cup of tea that resembles dish water you still feel compelled to drink it?

[biscuits]

I woke up with period pains, took some ibuprofen and heated up Bagpuss. Luckily the pain killers kicked in after an hour. Then I went for a walk around the woods/lake. I'm glad I didn't go back to bed.