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Old 11th April 2021, 00:12
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Default What life lessons have you learned during lockdown?

I'd say I've learnt:-

1. That it's beneficial to remind myself to go with the flow more and be less uptight

2. That it's not unreasonable to look out for my own interests as a priority on ocassion
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Old 11th April 2021, 00:18
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I can go a week or longer without washing or changing into clean clothes and not smell like shit.
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Old 11th April 2021, 00:22
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Good thread.
I think lockdown has taught me that I need to be more flexible and make more time for myself and not just focus on one thing to the exclusion of all else. I can't always be a go with the flow person, but I can definitely learnt let go of things once in a while.
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Old 11th April 2021, 13:00
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Why would you think working was necessary (apart from money)?
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Old 11th April 2021, 14:10
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Work has destroyed my life. I went for four months without working or having any face-to-face conversations and I didn't feel bored or lonely at all. In fact, I felt better than I've felt in 25 years, and was disappointed when I had to go back. I've always been led to believe that working is healthy and necessary, but now I'm starting to think that this isn't true at all.
Maybe you had been in the wrong type of work environment or doing the type of work that didn't suit you?
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Old 11th April 2021, 15:07
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Default Re: What life lessons have you learned during lockdown?

That my normal life is basically lockdown anyway - it barely changed at all.

Infact I preferred lockdown, I had excuses to not make an effort with anything. I dread going back to normality!

I did have a few months working from home instead of going into the office due to living with people who needed to shield, I do wonder if I would have lost my marbles if I'd been furloughed for a year..or work from home the full time
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Old 11th April 2021, 15:21
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That Netflix is roughly about 80% rubbish.
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Old 11th April 2021, 16:14
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That I hate everybody being off work and people walking past my house all day long. Go away.
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Old 11th April 2021, 17:56
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That I hate the media
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Old 11th April 2021, 21:06
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How much I love space and silence, and how unbearably overcrowded, noisy, stressful and fast-paced the U.K. has become. People are in for one hell of a shock when things return to normal. The thought of sitting in a traffic jam, or a packed train, during the summer heat makes me feel sick.
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Old 11th April 2021, 21:55
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That as soon as it is possible I want to move to a quieter, less crowded, part of the country where I can step straight out of my door and go for long countryside walks and can see green rolling hills from my windows. But as this can't happen until my husband reaches retirement age and I won't want to be too far away from my son this won't be able to happen for years and years, by which time I will have probably kicked the bucket
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Old 11th April 2021, 22:40
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Default Re: What life lessons have you learned during lockdown?

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That I am much more of a people person than I consider myself to be. I need to be around people, I need asinine conversations and a mix of talking to familiar people and meeting new people. For at least a decade I’ve been acting like I’m just no good at being around people and I didn’t need to anyway but actually it just took me a lot longer than other people to figure out how to do it. I’ve developed those skills over time and when it was taken away from me I’ve struggled.
I always thought of you as a people person miss tiger, at least that's how you come across on here.
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Old 11th April 2021, 23:14
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Well a couple of negative things first-

- I’ve learnt I seem to prefer my own company even more than I realised. I’ve enjoyed just doing more stuff on my own, and society actually encouraging me to do so! Sure, I enjoy people’s company, but I know people who are desperate to see friends and family again. I wouldn’t say I was desperate . This actually worries me as I didn’t think I was quite so bad. I’ve been in my own world for most of lockdown.
- I’m starting to realise that I’d like to move out of the South East of England.
- Politics, media and society is even more messed up than I thought.

Anyway, now for some positives.
- I love nature more than I realised.
- I like doing the same walks more often. It’s not just the same walk - you see plants and trees growing and changing through the seasons, different animals. I’ve started to recognise individual animals!
- I do also think it is incredible that the vaccines were put together so quickly. That’s a positive aspect of society. Of course, it’s getting muddied a bit by silly politics, but generally it’s a great achievement of the world community.
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Old 11th April 2021, 23:48
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That the "blitz spirit", "we're all in this together" mentality is a total myth. I really hoped that if something positive came out of this mess it would be uniting people and bringing them closer together. But I think it's highlighted just how divided we are as a society and how much inequality there is. As a "key worker" who has witnessed the behaviour of the general public throughout this it's been strange to witness so many extremes of human behaviour. There's been so much incredible selflessness, but also so much incredible selfishness.

I don't think I've really experienced lockdown as I've worked throughout it, and with a lot more stress and pressure than before lockdown. I certainly haven't found it relaxing or felt I could take things at a slower pace. The sooner my job is back to "normal" the better, and I will never again complain about some of the things I used to complain about because the past year has put it all in perspective
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Old 12th April 2021, 10:53
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That the "blitz spirit", "we're all in this together" mentality is a total myth.
I found this pretty annoying during that awful period of everyone seemed to be making banana bread, watching Tiger King and sharing toiler paper memes. It was strange how exciting it appeared to be for some people, doing their "lockdown diaries" that they thought other people would be interested in, going on about day five or whatever of not being able to go to work or a pub, like they were in prison or stuck on a desert island and not just staying at home for a bit. All the talk and articles about how society was coming together and would never be the same again since people would now help each other more sounded delusional. It was always obvious that the feeling would go away as quickly as it appeared, I don't know why anyone believed otherwise.
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Old 12th April 2021, 11:18
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Yes, the BS about society "coming together" seemed to be all about everyone coming together to coalesce around being furloughed on full pay, making sourdough, banging for the NHS and doing netflix etc.

Sure, there were stories in the media about food banks and free school dinners but it seemed like "national story" (if such a thing exists) wasn't about the people getting screwed over at all. Or the people left behind by those who died, like the children of parents who died and were not destitute etc.

Even now, the only real lasting negative legacy of covid seems to be long covid, not all the people who got screwed over by the government responses that didn't help them out, like not being able to pay rent etc (I know they did a freeze on evictions but there are about 20,000 people waiting to be evicted once the freeze is over).

I guess they can always find "media friendly" (middle class, had a good job, was previously healthy) people with long covid to report on. But no one wants to hear about a single mum in a flat with 3 kids who lost her job and hasn't been able to feed her kids let alone do home schooling. I know there was the odd story about this during the pandemic but it definitely wasn't the main narrative.
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Old 12th April 2021, 16:42
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I've had to remain in the office at work with one other colleague as, unfortunately, most of my job isn't possible to do at home. The rest have been working from home since the 20-something of March last year. Therefore the problems I've dealt with (which I've discussed in the distant past) with fellow work colleagues have been mostly absent for over a year...

Bliss.

I've hardly been back-stabbed, I've not been openly insulted or joked about on a near-daily basis e.t.c... Honestly, it's really lightened my mood to the point where I don't have a sense of absolute dread of going to work at the moment. I'd say at least two thirds of conversations with them have been dealt with over e-mail. It's funny how more respectful they can be when it's recorded in black and white... I've honestly enjoyed their absence and if I was to be brutally honest, there are a few specific individuals who I have no eagerness to see. I would say in the near-20 years I've been working, the past year has been one of my favourite times in my professional/working life.

There's been no formal discussions yet as to when the rest are due back into the office. Early 'unofficial' indications from my other colleague in the office (the manager) are is that we won't be seeing them any time until at least late into the Summer if the current situation remains the same.

So in terms of what I've learnt from lockdown when it comes to my worklife isn't much really - I'm better working alone when I'm under no social pressures from other people. In a similar fashion, not having to worry about making excuses to avoid the odd after-work drink/meet-up e.t.c when I simply don't feel like going... These lockdown measures literally removed most work-based problems which have plagued me for years overnight. It's proven to be beneficial to me. If I was to change jobs at some point in the future, I would be looking at 'working from home' posts as a preference.

From a personal life point of view, it's been a mixed bag. I've not missed the (forced) socialising. What I have missed are the weekend drives out where we've been told to remain local or only go out for essential purposes. Even by my standards, most weekends over the last year have been tedious. I've also missed out on the self-improvements I was making - such as the odd visit to a pub e.t.c... Something which only a decade ago I wouldn't have even considered doing alone. Those sorts of improvements being removed from me because of the pandemic have shown to me what steps forward I did actually make before-hand. Where I am now, back to effectively a work > home > work > home pattern which I had up to at least my latter 20's feels very much like a 'waste of life' to me now, rather than it being 'the normal' as it used to be.
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Old 15th April 2021, 10:33
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^ Do you have a bath? You could wash small amounts of clothes in there if you do and then hang them up on hangers above radiators or in doorways. You can also wash underwear and socks in the sink if needed.
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Old 15th April 2021, 15:09
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^ Have you tried checking if your local launderette does a service wash? I was usually too anxious to stay in a launderette and wash my own clothes and use the different machines, but I could just about psyche myself up enough to drop off a bag and say "service wash please" and then pick it up later in the day or the following day.
It was a little bit more than using the machines yourself, but not as much difference as you might think, as i costs quite a bit to use the dryers anyway.
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Old 15th April 2021, 15:55
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aw, ok. I hope you can get to your parents soon then and get some washing sorted.
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Old 15th April 2021, 20:31
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I've learned that my daily hermit life is actually newsworthy and I should of been in a straight jacket a long time ago. I have really detested hearing social creatures talk about how they now understand people with mental health issues as if the lockdown has been their degree in understanding us. I've learned that my lack of ambition is not depression but laziness. I developed no new knitting or vegetable patch growing skills.
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Old 18th April 2021, 23:08
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I work in admin at a hospital and have truly learned to appreciate that I'm lucky in alot of ways, yes my life is far from perfect but I wouldn't call myself unhappy. I have my health, my family is healthy, I've got job security in a time when many people have obviously lost their jobs. There's alot to be thankful for

I have to say the patients also for the most part have been amazing, they're obviously suffering but many of them go out of their way to be super nice and make it clear they know its not personally my fault, I really appreciate this, there have been times in the past when patients comments and shouting at me down the phone have left me in tears. Long may it last
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Old 19th April 2021, 09:31
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^ I was at a hospital appointment last week and while I was waiting a woman came into the waiting room I was in with her husband and there had been some mix up with her husband getting an x-ray. She was so abusive and horrible about it, I was quite shocked.
I don't really understand the mentality of people like that. To be honest it's hard enough being in hospital without listening to some entitled idiot ranting away at the staff, it's horrible for everyone.

Fingers crossed you keep getting the nice ones
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Old 20th April 2021, 23:18
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^ Couldn’t agree more, it just makes everyone uncomfortable

Fortunately I only have to speak to patients on the phone these days, the nicest patients are the older generation, some of them are so apologetic they are even calling at all and then you get the others who have such a feeling of entitlement, its makes me so mad Obviously the NHS is stretched to the limit and I totally appreciate some people get upset and a bit teary sometimes over waiting times or whatever that’s fine, its not nice to hear but that’s part of the job and something people can’t help, we ALL understand that and can sympathise but I once had a guy tell me “he wished he could meet me in real life”!!! to do what I don’t know. The worst part is there is no one to go with any of this, our managers can’t or won’t do ANYTHING and we just get left to sink or swim when dealing with people, no training in this whatsoever On the positive side I would say it has definitely helped my anxiety because I've just had to get on with it
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Old 21st April 2021, 09:50
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^ ugh that's horrible. I don't know how to deal with aggressive people like that. When I was a nursery nurse some of the parents could be demanding or horrible, but there was one particular dad who was aggressive and nasty, I used it start shaking just from seeing his car pull into the carpark!
I don't understand why some people think it's ok to take all their stress and aggression out on people who they know won't be able to speak their minds back, because they'd get in trouble. It's very cowardly.
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Old 21st April 2021, 11:42
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I think, not just from lockdown alone but I think I have learnt how independent I can be maybe?
I think I am still intimidated by certain people but much less.
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