Type what you're thinking about right now (11)

[choirgirl]

I can relate to the touch thing too. I wasn't even worried about it, until there were all these articles about it during the pandemic, about raised cortisol levels and whatnot, and I thought, oh, that makes sense. It's physically bad for me. Bum.

[R.H.I.N.O.]

And I'm sure you do yourself a disservice.

[Professor Willow]

Why is that when you have a diagnosis of anxiety or depression the doctors blame everything on it?

[Amara 94]

my life depresses me

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by NeverWas

That's the danger, that they blame everything on that. That's why I'm afraid to be open about it because people sort of 'profile' you once they know especially armchair psychologists and they can discredit or pathologize you. It's very disempowering.

I think that’s why I didn’t like going to the gp requesting an autism assessment. I went a few times and nothing happened. One doctor said I couldn’t have autism. Then I went to one doctor who work up my issues to be anxiety. Why is it hard to realise you could have multiple issues?

[Amara 94]

My recent haircut. It's alright but I'm not happy with it. I feel it was actually good and an improvement on other haircuts but poor method spoilt the fade. Like felt I was fading more to my head shape at the beginning than I have i the past. I saw how fading down is better for a fade and have been fading down for about half a year. It works but I find the method messy. I think it's only messy because my mind still wants to draw guidelines working down but guidelines seem less important if I am fading down.

But then it seems like every barber has their own clipper techniques. Saw one on Instagram today fading before cutting the hair bottom of the head, near the neck.

[Amara 94]

My anxiety is a real issue

[Professor Willow]

I'm being taken for a mug

[Wham Bam Thank You Jam]

^ Start a thread to guess what's in you.

[biscuits]

[biscuits]

Who is taking you for a mug, professor?

[Amara 94]

It’s actually hard when I like someone and we build a bond which is rare. I think it’s hard when we bond constantly in real life. I say this because I have a close friend but we mostly chat on WhatsApp and that never brings about hard feelings but also makes the friendship more one dimensional and less intense.

I have found that when I bond with someone feelings that I lack something come up and I envy certain strengths I see of them. But then the connection feels so good that I guess I need to work on these issues.

That’s the scary thing about even overcoming anxiety, it’s like I have to face myself. Facing my incompetencies seems scary. I also have strengths but idk why being open to vulnerability is scary.

[biscuits]

I went to the dentist today and he told me that he's going to do his masters degree and do some teaching of dentistry. He's a great guy and I get on really with him. We often chat for a bit after the appointment. It means he'll reduce his days to two a week and that he'll be going private. He was saying how he's seen me for years now and that if I want to stay with him it will be £60 each time and that includes cleaning. He said that using denplan would not be beneficial to me as I don't have any work done.

I don't really want to pay £60 each time I go to the dentist!

The other option would be to wait for an NHS dentist to join the practice but that another has NHS dentist has left and they're struggling to replace them.

He said to think about it and let him know next week. I know what my answer is, but there aren't any NHS dentists left to register with around here.

[Jen.]

£60 doesn't sound bad at all, if you don't have any work that needs maintaining then you'll probably only need to be going once a year for a check up. It's not much more than an MOT.

[Jen.]

Certainly a lot of responses/quotes in the "A place to vent [no responding/quoting]" thread

[biscuits]

Yeah, I've brought it up a few times on the thread but gave up

[biscuits]

Originally Posted by Jen.

£60 doesn't sound bad at all, if you don't have any work that needs maintaining then you'll probably only need to be going once a year for a check up. It's not much more than an MOT.

That's a good way to look at it. I didn't realise it would be once a year. It's about £24 for an NHS checkup - £48 a year. He said he'd include professional cleaning within the price as well, which would negate the need to see a hygienist.

I also have dentist anxiety, which I stopped getting after seeing him a few times. I've never had any work done so I always worry myself by thinking, "Today must be the day!"

I'd want to know what his prices are for treatments but that will be "from £x amount".

I've got until the end of next week to decide.

Also... crap, I need to book my car in for an MOT.

[Professor Willow]

Originally Posted by Existential Jam

^ Start a thread to guess what's in you.

Originally Posted by biscuits

Who is taking you for a mug, professor?

A lot of people probably but I was mainly thinking about someone who I do a lot of work for.
They never pay their bills on time and when they do finally pay up it's begrudgingly but they have just gone out and spend several thousand pounds buying another tractor that will only sit in a shed gathering dust.

[biscuits]

Oh that sounds annoying!

Would it make a difference if you asked that they sign a quote to say that they'll pay within x amount of days before doing the work? Or can you ask for a deposit?

Is that a bit faffy!

[Merritt]

Earlier this year I bought tickets for a couple of concerts, for the end of this month and in November, but I'm really considering giving them a miss. I haven't done anything like it since 2019, and I'm really not sure I have the confidence now. Feel like I don't even want the hope that I might have a good time weighing on me, because I'm not sure I'm even capable any more. The last three years have put me fully in 'brace for the worst' mode, actually looking forward to anything feels alien now, and to be honest when I think of these shows coming up I don't feel much other than a vague sense of dread, like they're just ordeals to get through, so why bother? Also, spending money on train tickets and hotel rooms seems pretty irresponsible with the sort of economic mess we're heading into.

Urgh, I hate having to make decisions like this, because I know whatever I choose I'll feel bad and beat myself up over it. Put myself through a load of difficult shit by going and probably not even be able to wring any pleasure out of it, or feel like the world's biggest loser by staying home.

[biscuits]

^ I’ve done something similar before. The excitement of going to see the band or artist fuelled me to buy the tickets, but then I’ve been unsure as the date creeps closer and the realisation that going to a gig on a weekday isn’t the best idea when you have to be up at 6:30am the following day! In the end I sold the tickets (legally!).

If you book the hotel and train in advance then you might get a good deal. Maybe you could go to one of the gigs and see how it goes. Once a few songs start up you might get lost in the atmosphere and enjoyment of the music.

This is handy if you’re looking for cheaper trains, sometimes it works out better to get splits fares: https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/tr...train-tickets/

[Rocket Spud]

Is that really the time... ? **** sake

[anewyear]

Hating the fact I'm such a scaredy-cat for some things. Currently I'm on holiday and crapping myself about doing a cable car journey followed by a toboggan ride down the streets (Madeira). I wish I wasn't so risk adverse.. I feel like I miss out on new experiences because of it. I've already bailed out of water based things

[Professor Willow]

I'm not sure how much longer I can handle living in this house before I top myself

[Rocket Spud]

.... I've been kicked off Netflix. Have they recently brought in the password share thing?

[Rocket Spud]

^ Mum changed her password is what happened


I could really benefit from having more than one shop near me as i'm probably appearing like i've got a booze issue with some of the staff now. Ugh, i was wearing the same clothes as yesterday and was served by the same girl too, lol.

[biscuits]

^ you'll have to buy in some disguises:

[biscuits]

Felt really anxious this morning and burst into tears. Feeling a bit better now, so I've gone out to the shops to keep me a bit busy.

[Percy]

Aw Biscuits, don't cry.

[Rocket Spud]

Originally Posted by biscuits

^ you'll have to buy in some disguises:

Haha, nah i'll just front it out like i've been doing for the best part of two years now! It's not like i'm there every day, so i'm just making more of it than it is.

Originally Posted by biscuits

Felt really anxious this morning and burst into tears. Feeling a bit better now, so I've gone out to the shops to keep me a bit busy.

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