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Old 22nd October 2022, 15:13
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Even youtube doesn't seem as trendy. It feels stable though but very hard to become big just using youtube nowadays. Coming big on youtube alone now, I'm not the most current person when it comes to celeb culture, seems to be becoming as hard as making it big on TV must have been.

Maybe the trend of becoming an influencer may die or evolve in a sense that it becomes less accessible to become one.
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Old 25th October 2022, 13:14
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My mum has been in a mental hospital and then a mental hostel for few months. She called the fire brigade and ambulance to our house a few days ago. When she calls or comes home she usually asks about borrowing money. It's like money is the most important thing to her. Currently no wifi at home, I think because she wants to stop paying the wifi and electricity and move out the house. I tried to pay for the wifi but it's a long process as I can't prove I'm the one living at the property as I didn't use to pay the bills and tax under my name.

My mum wants to move out. My aunt, mum's ex-friend, said I should inform her social worker about this and relocate her if it's possible.

I think I am going to do this, but also feel, although tougher because of money and house sharing, it's time to move out.

My mum's ex friend has a new husband and when I last visited her, her son was angry because he broke up with his girlfriend and now lost his house. So he wanted to move back in, but on the condition that my aunt kicked her husband out of the house. I think he was in a very bad mood and thought at the time he had the option of house share or something if he didn't want to move home. Made me feel I should be more responsible rather than try to change what I can't.

For me, the UK actually feels lonely and depressing, although I don't know if I would want to live in another country where I can't speak the language. I saw my grans friend who lives in the UK. The difference I noticed is that she had 24/7 electricity and stuff however in Nigeria my grannies sister had 24/7 house help. Despite the power cuts my gran and her sister had much more social support than her friend in the UK. The stereotype of lonely old people might be a UK thing.

But then perhaps I find the UK lonely because I am not really part of a support group, in real life and am not religious. I don't feel I want to be religious but church definitely offers social support. My cousin is trying to make me religious, I have to do prayers with her and stuff. I don't know how to say no without breaking the connection. She is in Nigeria. I feel I am quitting my job when I find another one. The main thing I would miss at my job, to be honest, is the social support from one security guard. The general manager doesn't even seem to acknowledge me but seems friendlier with others. My job is depressing for me.
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Old 26th October 2022, 14:42
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I've not been to work for 8 days, I'm going to have to go back soon and the anxiety is getting out of hand.
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Old 26th October 2022, 15:15
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My mum has been in a mental hospital and then a mental hostel for few months. She called the fire brigade and ambulance to our house a few days ago. When she calls or comes home she usually asks about borrowing money. It's like money is the most important thing to her. Currently no wifi at home, I think because she wants to stop paying the wifi and electricity and move out the house. I tried to pay for the wifi but it's a long process as I can't prove I'm the one living at the property as I didn't use to pay the bills and tax under my name.

My mum wants to move out. My aunt, mum's ex-friend, said I should inform her social worker about this and relocate her if it's possible.

I think I am going to do this, but also feel, although tougher because of money and house sharing, it's time to move out.

My mum's ex friend has a new husband and when I last visited her, her son was angry because he broke up with his girlfriend and now lost his house. So he wanted to move back in, but on the condition that my aunt kicked her husband out of the house. I think he was in a very bad mood and thought at the time he had the option of house share or something if he didn't want to move home. Made me feel I should be more responsible rather than try to change what I can't.

For me, the UK actually feels lonely and depressing, although I don't know if I would want to live in another country where I can't speak the language. I saw my grans friend who lives in the UK. The difference I noticed is that she had 24/7 electricity and stuff however in Nigeria my grannies sister had 24/7 house help. Despite the power cuts my gran and her sister had much more social support than her friend in the UK. The stereotype of lonely old people might be a UK thing.

But then perhaps I find the UK lonely because I am not really part of a support group, in real life and am not religious. I don't feel I want to be religious but church definitely offers social support. My cousin is trying to make me religious, I have to do prayers with her and stuff. I don't know how to say no without breaking the connection. She is in Nigeria. I feel I am quitting my job when I find another one. The main thing I would miss at my job, to be honest, is the social support from one security guard. The general manager doesn't even seem to acknowledge me but seems friendlier with others. My job is depressing for me.
Sorry you're going through difficult things with your Mum again, it's good she's been somewhere where she can get help.

If your Mum's flat/house is social housing you might be able to take over the tenancy, if you can afford the rent and bills. Or you could possibly go on the list for a place of your own.
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Old 26th October 2022, 15:52
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I really need a haircut, but I don't want to go.
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Old 26th October 2022, 18:45
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^ I've just been. The salmon still does the silent service where they don't chat to you and it is glorious.
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Old 26th October 2022, 18:54
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Do you pay extra for this silent service?
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Old 26th October 2022, 19:40
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^ And if they do, how do they tell you?
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Old 26th October 2022, 19:46
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^That made me laugh.
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Old 26th October 2022, 20:09
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^ I've just been. The salmon still does the silent service where they don't chat to you and it is glorious.
I don't mind that, because I obviously give off "don't talk to me" vibes by being incapable of conversation.
I'd quite like a not having to look at my own reflection for the next fifteen minutes service. Or a no buyer's remorse service.

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Do you pay extra for this silent service?
It's 50p for each word they don't say. They count them up with a little pocket meter.
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Old 27th October 2022, 01:04
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I'm so glad we get an extra hour this weekend.

Wasn't there a way on here to change the colour scheme? I can't find it. Maybe I'm completely misremembering.
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Old 27th October 2022, 09:04
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seaside towns are bad designs.
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Old 27th October 2022, 16:21
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^^ I really need an extra hour, marvellous!

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Do you pay extra for this silent service?
paying people to shut up. No, it's just something you request when booking
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Old 27th October 2022, 18:01
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I just chopped up the strongest onion and my eyes were streaming. I thought I’d perfected onion chopping without crying. What a stinger.
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Old 27th October 2022, 20:08
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^^ I really need an extra hour, marvellous!



paying people to shut up. No, it's just something you request when booking
That's good, not a service i need, i actually like talking to my barber.
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Old 27th October 2022, 20:20
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^ I think my hairdresser likes having a moment of quiet time too! It's fantastic because so many people are put off by going to the hairdressers because of the forced chatter. It's great if people find that sort of things come naturally to them. It's nice to have the choice and to feel included.
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Old 27th October 2022, 20:25
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^Couldn't agree more, having the choice makes all the difference.
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Old 28th October 2022, 01:13
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Jobs and careers. I bombed an interview last week and I've got to go to a careers fair. I'm so fed up of them. I've never got the hang of them. At the interview, I realised that some employers call what I would call jobs careers if there's some long term development of staff. I find this quite confusing, and I'm a bit suspicious of it. It's like calling dating marriage. Nothing wrong with a job, but it seems a bit daft to call it a career.

Also I'm annoyed I never sorted this stuff out before and I still have to sort it and pretend to care about 'careers' when I don't. And I have to pretend I don't care about having children ever when I'm struggling with this trapped energy that has nowhere to go and I have to work out how to manage it. And I'm being bratty because I'm so tired of raising energy to care about things, and repress energy elsewhere, and I don't seem to have ever worked out how to do those things well enough. I just have no intrinsic interest in careers for their own sake, let alone, laughably, jobs calling themselves careers. I want to do my duty, preferably without it taking too much out of me, but other than that the main point to me is to fund building a life of your own. Anyway, if I'd sorted out the career thing I might have been able to pivot in my mid to late 30s, but I didn't. I suppose I've always had a bad attitude.

The moderate improvement of the social anxiety and the rise of the don't give a ****ness, I'm old, I'm a loser and I don't get to have the life I'd want and I have to live with that until I die has at least made me less anxious, but unfortunately I have to balance this without conveying any I don't give a ****ness in a work situation. This is new for me, I always very much gave a ****, so I haven't learnt it yet.
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Old 28th October 2022, 11:28
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Social anxiety is a real problem that usually isn’t taken seriously enough
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Old 28th October 2022, 12:16
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^ You're right there.
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Old 28th October 2022, 12:25
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Jobs and careers. I bombed an interview last week and I've got to go to a careers fair. I'm so fed up of them. I've never got the hang of them. At the interview, I realised that some employers call what I would call jobs careers if there's some long term development of staff. I find this quite confusing, and I'm a bit suspicious of it. It's like calling dating marriage. Nothing wrong with a job, but it seems a bit daft to call it a career.

Also I'm annoyed I never sorted this stuff out before and I still have to sort it and pretend to care about 'careers' when I don't. And I have to pretend I don't care about having children ever when I'm struggling with this trapped energy that has nowhere to go and I have to work out how to manage it. And I'm being bratty because I'm so tired of raising energy to care about things, and repress energy elsewhere, and I don't seem to have ever worked out how to do those things well enough. I just have no intrinsic interest in careers for their own sake, let alone, laughably, jobs calling themselves careers. I want to do my duty, preferably without it taking too much out of me, but other than that the main point to me is to fund building a life of your own. Anyway, if I'd sorted out the career thing I might have been able to pivot in my mid to late 30s, but I didn't. I suppose I've always had a bad attitude.

The moderate improvement of the social anxiety and the rise of the don't give a ****ness, I'm old, I'm a loser and I don't get to have the life I'd want and I have to live with that until I die has at least made me less anxious, but unfortunately I have to balance this without conveying any I don't give a ****ness in a work situation. This is new for me, I always very much gave a ****, so I haven't learnt it yet.
Same here to be honest. Careers fairs, I've always seen them as silly, companies are there for a presence and a day out rather than it actually being anything.
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Old 28th October 2022, 16:06
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I just do not know what to make for dinner.
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Old 28th October 2022, 16:35
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^ pie
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Old 28th October 2022, 16:35
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^^ Make a nice pasta dish with a homemade tomato based sauce. If you haven't got any tomatoes, get some from under your nan's table.
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Old 28th October 2022, 20:02
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Old 29th October 2022, 03:41
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It's a bit late, brain. Go to sleep please.
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Old 29th October 2022, 10:33
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the most exciting news of the day:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/202...itish-classic/
Doctor Who is getting a Disney rendition.
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Old 29th October 2022, 12:28
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How to stop thinking and give myself and my brain a rest.
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Old 29th October 2022, 12:47
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I have more tools in my anxiety toolbox now than I have ever had in my life, so why do I find myself being completely overwhelmed by anxiety and despair?
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Old 29th October 2022, 13:25
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The Barry Island Fireworks display is tonight instead of next Saturday. It's weird that it's a week early.

I was looking to go to a fireworks display next Saturday (on the actual day). This change is throwing me a little.

It's interesting that even with an anxiety disorder, I enjoy watching fireworks. I think because mentally I do the ground work and mentally prepare myself for fireworks and that they are going to be loud, which then means that I can still experience them.
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