I'm Confused Even More!!! - Update!

toughbird · #1 6th April 2019, 22:12

Hi guys

This is the link with my orginal story. http://www.social-anxiety-community....ad.php?t=90498

Update

So I got on with my life. Decided to just move forward. In a new job which has increasing helped me to focus on a more positive life. Made me realise my self worth was more. I was surrounded with positivety. I even got a new phone and new number.

This week, I saw my ex at the bus stop. He saw me. Said hello and walked past me.

Two days later, on my facebook newsfeed. He posted up saying his deleted seventeen friends off his FB within the last three months.

Me being stupid and caring. I texted him from my new phone informing this is my new number.

Within a minute later, he replied back thanking me for my new number.

He ignores my texts for months. Doesn't reply. The moment I text him with my new number. He sends a reply back within one minute later thanking me for my new number. I then ask him about meeting up next week. Tells me no thanks. Then I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too".

As soon as I point out - I just want a friendship with him. He ignores me.

Why go from blanking me for months. Then thanking me for my new number. Then refuses to meet up and then ignores me again.

What kind of pathetic immature crap is that??

Gosh I am so pathetic.

Deer · #2 6th April 2019, 22:26

He wants to be left alone.

Dougella · #3 6th April 2019, 22:33

You were obviously doing the right thing in moving on with your life. It's so difficult when you have a tiny bit of contact with someone like that but he's obviously the same as he always was.

toughbird · #4 6th April 2019, 22:48

I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too".

What the hell is that supposed to mean?

Deer · #5 6th April 2019, 22:58

That he is reluctant to be your friend, I believe, because the way you feel is too overbearing to him.

You have to give people breathing space. If not, then you are just trying to make them do what you want them to do.

Schmosby · #6 6th April 2019, 23:28

There are almost 4,000,000,000 men in the world, try not to put too much thought into this one.

sophie123 · #7 6th April 2019, 23:38

You need forget about him and move on.

Consolida · #8 7th April 2019, 04:32

It sounds like you have moved on with your life in a really positive way toughbird, and that's great news about your new job

Don't let bumping into this guy again with his confusingly mixed messages bring you down.
You were doing so well without him and you don't need him back in your life again even as just a friend. Somebody else will eventually enter your life that is so much better for you

Take care

toughbird · #9 7th April 2019, 09:40

Thank you all for your replies and kind support - I really appreciate it.

I've deleted his numbers and his FB page. This friendship is not healthy. In fact toxic. Friendships are a two way street not a one way.

Gosh - it shows how little of myself I think. Low self esteem.

Your right - I deserve much better than settling for less.