Looks or personality?

john333 · #1 10th October 2012, 13:25

What do you go for?
For me it has to be personality over looks every time.
I'm not saying looks don't matter at all, I have to have some physical attraction to them but the personality
is primarily what i look for.

GhostOnMagneticTape · #2 10th October 2012, 13:29

I like a balance though it doesn't have to be perfect, I try not to think in black and white all the time. I can't deny looks are important to me but so is a personality, though things in common and a connection I rate highly.

john333 · #3 10th October 2012, 13:53

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Originally Posted by SambaBus

Another dating thread I see. In my opinion looks are more important in the early stages but later on personality is much more important. I see looks to be an ice breaker more than anything.

Yes I'm not saying looks don't matter at all, there has to be some kind of physical attraction but primarily there personality has to be good.

Tom123 · #4 10th October 2012, 14:11

Need both. I want to be able to talk to her and sex her.

neilm · #5 10th October 2012, 17:44

Well its got to be a bit of both really hasnt it?

Tetsuaiga · #6 10th October 2012, 18:25

I think it needs to be both really.

I dont really have high standards for looks, id just like them to be reasonably normal. When I tried a dating site once the only girls who messaged me were quite ugly lol.

Defiance · #7 10th October 2012, 18:37

i will be honest and say looks will initially catch my eye.

and if i like their looks, then if i like their personality i may make a move.

people who say it's all about the personality, i tend not to believe them. Yes, I am a skeptical mofo.....

on the internet, it's ALL about the pictures. trust me. i was bored enough to actually do experiments.....

ofline. in a bar/club .. it's mostly still about looks, but you've got a bit more leeway than online ...as online ..people tend to want to only talk to someone who resembles theyre ideal partner ...wheras ofline people arn't quite as tunnel visioned.

social circle: looks still are king, but as you get to know someone personality comes more into play. so yes, i would say personality has a little bit more impact there.

Alex652 · #8 10th October 2012, 19:34

Like most have said, its got to be a bit of both.

There are plenty of people I find good looking, but really wouldn't want to date.

cymruambyth26 · #9 10th October 2012, 20:20

I would say again a bit of both but more so personality than looks.

You could have a good looking woman who talks to you like shite and is a right bitch. I'm sure such a personality doesn't apply to any women in this forum

Defiance · #10 10th October 2012, 20:22

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Originally Posted by cymruambyth22

You could have a good looking woman who talks to you like shite and is a right bitch.

some men have a fetish for that kinda thing y'know

cymruambyth26 · #11 10th October 2012, 20:23

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Originally Posted by Defiance

some men have a fetish for that kinda thing y'know

Aye true haha but don't get what i'm talking about confused with a dominatrix

Flowerbomb · #12 10th October 2012, 20:34

bit of both, not too gorgeous, mr average or above average maybe

Tetsuaiga · #13 10th October 2012, 20:43

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Originally Posted by Karen

bit of both, not too gorgeous, mr average or above average maybe

How can someone above average not be considered better?

Flowerbomb · #14 10th October 2012, 20:45

Mr average looking, gorgeous personality, ive not really given it that much thought ever tbh, I think its a bit of a shallow thread.

cymruambyth26 · #15 10th October 2012, 20:46

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Originally Posted by Karen

Mr average

Sounds like one of my former teachers

Flowerbomb · #16 10th October 2012, 20:49

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Originally Posted by Tetsuaiga

How can someone above average not be considered better?

wheres your response to this thread?

Ive seen your response now

Flowerbomb · #17 10th October 2012, 20:50

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Originally Posted by cymruambyth22

Sounds like one of my former teachers

Do you watch fresh meat ch4 10pm Tuesday, hes not like the male teacher on there is he? Ha

Purple Lightning · #18 10th October 2012, 21:03

Personality is the most important thing to me

WeiJingsheng · #19 10th October 2012, 21:07

I can't really define what is ideal in either.
If I find someone immediately attractive, I will most likely warm to their personality (if I like it), far more quickly. If I do not find them attractive looks-wise, but I like their personality, it may take a little longer to notice them in such a way. There are not any major differences between those two hypothetical though.

I try not to think about these things with a checklist of preferences though. I guess I am a romantic in that sense.

cymruambyth26 · #20 10th October 2012, 21:08

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Originally Posted by Karen

Do you watch fresh meat ch4 10pm Tuesday, hes not like the male teacher on there is he? Ha

I don't no but isn't that the one with Jack Whitehall. I did watch his other one he wrote for BBC Three called Bad Education.

Flowerbomb · #21 10th October 2012, 21:11

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Originally Posted by cymruambyth22

I don't no but isn't that the one with Jack Whitehall. I did watch his other one he wrote for BBC Three called Bad Education.

Yeah bad education has some funny bits I watch that as well

Truthseeker · #22 11th October 2012, 03:32

ugly women prefer good looking men over below average men so there is no point in men with below average looks concerning themselves over ugly women

on the other hand good looking women may become fed up with men who select them on the basis of their looks and look beyond that

Miserable people don't tend to look attractive - so that is something that possibly can be changed , also weight loss and a makeover can lead to an improvement

The Eastenders actor Heather Trott is an example of how the same person can look very different

If you do get on with someone as a friend but wouldn't consider them as more than a friend due to their looks , I don't think that is right

There are not many ugly women anyway