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^ No idea. I'm not expecting anything for at least six months, and even that's optimistic, I think.
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#1652
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^ Sorry you feel that way
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#1653
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#1654
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#1655
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^ Hope you feel better Either/Or.
I feel needy and pathetic but nothing has changed there. |
#1657
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Lonely.
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#1658
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Toxic, foul mood that I can't shake at all today.
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#1659
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Lonely pathetic and friendless
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#1660
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Been asked if I want to go out for a Christmas meal with a load of people from MIND. Noooooooooooooo chance! Utter nightmare. Can't eat in public and can't stand social stuff like that.
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#1661
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Every time I go outside people always stare at me. It's like they know just by looking at me.
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#1662
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^^ I get that feeling sometimes. I think some of it is my imagination, and sometimes people are waiting to see if they should smile and say hi but don't want to be the first to do it. I also find that when I'm feeling shy I try not to look at people, so it feels kinda threatening when they don't do the same.
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#1663
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#1664
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But sometimes you end up looking for it, looking for people staring at you and you are the one who ends up staring, then they end up staring at you, wondering what you are staring at lol. You look normal and there's nothing to stare at. Believe me, there's nothing wrong with the way you look, or anything like that. I suggest that when you go out, to slow down. Chill and stroll around. It makes you less anxious than darting about, trying to get from A to B as quick as possible. Also, look around at your surroundings and if you look at people, just give them a quick glance and look at someone or something else. Trust me you'll start to feel better, more relaxed and then you'll actually start to people watch more and realize that most people aren't staring at you and they are not even giving you a second thought. |
#1665
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^ Great advice
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My eye contact issues have got much better and I now actually spend a lot of time watching people, instead of glancing them and moving onto to someone/something else. And I find myself going up to people to talk to them as well. I think I've got to this age now where I can't be arsed to be that anxious anymore. lol Still got loads of other bloody issues that I don't see doing one and leaving me the feck alone anytime soon, though. |
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#1670
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I used to hate eating in public, and still do a bit, but I'm such a greedy **** my appetite forces me to eat in any situation where food is available. lol
I reckon you should go right in at the deep end Lee and go to a busy carvery pub, fill your plate with a pea mountain and eat every last pea in the middle of the room, with one of those thin dessert forks. There's nothing more anxiety inducing than trying to keep yourself from shaking and flinging peas everywhere, in peoples laps, drinks, hair etc. The PMC, Pea Mountain Challenge, is the ultimate challenge for anxious eaters! |
#1671
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#1672
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^^ Nandos is the greatest. You're secretly glad I pushed you into it.
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#1673
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#1675
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- a. they will probably look away just as quickly unless you happen to be George Clooney or someone; and - b. even if they don't, if they just stare and stare and stare - well, that's pretty strange of them and definitely more their issue than yours., and - c. If they stare at you, it means you are the most interesting thing to happen to them that day, and - d. it's not a crime to be nervous. So they're staring at you. Let them. As long as they are not punching you in the face, is it so bad? I make these points to help diffuse the worry and paranoia about this stuff. I used to be convinced everyone was staring, out to get me and so forth. I still feel that way sometimes, but I don't worry about it. If someone wants to stare, so what? What do I care? Stare away; feast your eyes. They can be sure I'm paying them no attention whatsoever. So what if it feels like they know my every weakness. Even if they could read my mind - which they can't, they may get a vague sense of me via body language and shared experiences but that's all - they would have a hard time deciphering its contents, much less acting civilised when faced with what they found there. And if they can't hold back, if they simply have to do some violence to me, then I call the cops and get them banged up. Maybe swing a couple of punches in the bargain. I dunno. It's never actually happened but it's like a little act I adopt when out and nervous to help me through. I found that once I adopted this approach, either people stopped staring or I stopped noticing. Hope this helps. |
#1676
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^^Was I not the one who ordered you a beer with a name I could barely pronounce and with the added risk of getting ID'd? Don't play me at that game, sir.
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#1677
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Invisible.
Clearly not my day today. |
#1678
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Just needed a bit of attention, cheers.
Now I know my posts are actually being posted, always a plus. |
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