How is everyone feeling? (31) - Page 693

choirgirl · #**20761** 12th May 2020, 18:45

Isn't that what Bumble is? I'm not well up on these apps.

anxiouslondoner · #**20762** 13th May 2020, 13:29

Really not coping.

Percy · #**20763** 13th May 2020, 13:32

^Sorry to hear that anxiouslondoner.

choirgirl · #**20764** 13th May 2020, 18:55

Is it not speaking to anyone irl that's doing that Anxious Londoner?

anxiouslondoner · #**20765** 13th May 2020, 19:50

Thanks. Don't know. Work from home is just stressing me out. I feel like a fraud. I know nothing.

choirgirl · #**20766** 13th May 2020, 19:52

Eh - you're probably not the only one feeling that way.

Consolida · #**20767** 14th May 2020, 07:13

^ Raks, I hope you can take some of your very helpful and supportive advice to others on here and start being a little kinder to yourself. Comparing yourself unfavourably to other folk is never a good thing and besides, their lives are seldom as great as it may outwardly appear. Although I have a beloved husband and son I don't have any friends and my life is pretty purposeless on a day to day basis. Currently my depression is so severe I'm ashamed to say that I didn't even get out of bed yesterday. I can't talk for other people here, but you certainly aren't inferior to me!

I've seen your photo so I can confidently say that you have a lovely face and the horrible one that you see looking back at you in the mirror is not the one that everyone else sees. I don't know if you have looked up Body Dysmorphic Disorder but you might find that you are able to identify with some of that. As for your personality, it's clear from your posts that you are supportive, empathetic and compassionate to others during their darkest times. I can't think of any better personality traits for anyone to have. However, please reserve a little of that kindness for yourself - as you deserve it too!!

Mo34 · #**20768** 14th May 2020, 16:22

Tired.
Was at cat sanctuary where i'm now doing the pony and the donkey as well. Trouble with lock down though is everyone is so in need to chat that you can't get anything done

I got there late at 9 am sort out the resident cats but somehow didn't get round to the ponies till 11.45! apart from letting them out doing there hay. We didn't leave till nearly 3 pm. Dunno why everyone comes and has a chat with me, maybe cause i'm quiet and listen I suppose. it certainly isn't for my charm or wit!

Mike.Kzov · #**20769** 18th May 2020, 00:59

Worried. It looks like my store will be wanting everyone back come June. The real worry is I share a house with a family member who's shielding, which I'll obviously compromise being around the hoi polloi.

I'd happily move to a place of my own if my pay weren't so shit.

Urh, **** knows what I'll do.

2020. I've had better.

Consolida · #**20770** 18th May 2020, 08:59

@ imperfect perfectionist - How are you fake? You come across as pretty authentic to me

Btw, how did the online kickboxing class go?

@ Mike.Kzov - I'm guessing you aren't able to work from home?
I certainly don't think your employer should pressurise you to return to the store in June if you have no alternative but to live with someone who is shielding. Obviously your risks of catching the virus are considerably higher once you return to working with the 'hoi polloi' which could potentially be very dangerous for the person you're living with. Your employer really should make allowances for people in your situation. I mean, even BoJo (sort of said) go to work if it's sensible to do so, but continue to stay at home for now if it isn't. I think

Mike.Kzov · #**20771** 19th May 2020, 01:11

^^^ Thanks for the reply :-) I've been in touch with HR and explained the situation, they say they're at the stage of coming up with plans for how there can be a safe working environment. My regional boss said I'd never be expected to jeopardize my loved ones' well being.

Sigh, we shall see.

^ It sounds like they're making efforts to keep you safe, at least. I hope so, I wish the government would get firmer and clearer on everyone wearing masks. It just seems a no brainer way of reducing transmission

Mo34 · #**20772** 19th May 2020, 12:34

Absolutely knackered. ****wit of a neighbour had nightclub level music until after 4am, I dropped off for a while and he then woke me up banging and talking (loudly) to some girl at 6.30am ish. Going on about "i'm soo drunk" .

So another round of complaints *sigh* begins - hopefully the new landlord company will be better. Hopefully he'll be passed out for the day now.

I feel zombiefied.

least I have tomorrow to look forward to - going up to the downs and to the lupin field I used to help with and meet my friend J (at a distance).

Dougella · #**20773** 19th May 2020, 14:11

^ What a thoughtless idiot he is. Do you have any noise cancelling headphones? Might be worth investing in some in the mean time, although maybe not the easiest for sleeping with.

Mo34 · #**20774** 19th May 2020, 14:49

^ I use a really cheap (like Â£30) pair of inner ears ones, they have some noise cancelling but not much. There not bad for blocking out like mild gaming or him talking/carrying on with his mates but the music is so loud and the bass so penetrating that they can't block that out. So instead I ended up watching a documentary with loud music with the headphones at 2 am and the volume cranked up to a really unhealthy level. Still could hear him somewhat

I would invest in proper more expensive NC ear phones if I could be sure they really work.

twosocks · #**20775** 19th May 2020, 14:55

We had hotels booked for rammstein, tewksbury medieval festival and london comicon. Just finished cancelling them all today. We paid upfront for london comicon so its nice to have that reimbursed. I'm putting it towards going to the knotts end boathouse at ullswater when this is all over, its pricey but somewhere i've always wanted to go and it will make me feel less bummed out and have something to look forward to given this current nightmare. Whenever i get stressed out i think about sitting on the jetty and how peaceful it will be. I wish i could just live there, its like paradise.

Rocket Spud · #**20776** 20th May 2020, 00:51

Quite a way away from good.

Mike.Kzov · #**20777** 20th May 2020, 01:17

^ sorry to hear that Mr Spud.

Utopia · #**20778** 20th May 2020, 01:44

Starting to get a bit warm.... sleepy.

Rocket Spud · #**20779** 20th May 2020, 08:19

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Originally Posted by Mike.Kzov

^ sorry to hear that Mr Spud.

Thanks, matey. It's mostly the work situation, there's no end to it - think it's time to ask for my workload to be halved. Problem is when/if things go back to normal there's no guarantee that i'll get the other half back

I really need a new job.

Deer · #**20780** 20th May 2020, 09:23

Whose strongly interested in socialism on here?
Years ago, someone recommended a book to me which was a critique of capitalism. I remember it mentioning capitalism as like a veil and thought that people didn't even know how oppressed they were because capitalism was seeped so deeply in our lives. Can't remember who the thinker was, nor do I remember who suggested I read it. Any idea?

Rocket Spud · #**20781** 20th May 2020, 09:29

^ This thread may have your answer.

Dougella · #**20782** 20th May 2020, 10:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deer

Whose strongly interested in socialism on here?
Years ago, someone recommended a book to me which was a critique of capitalism. I remember it mentioning capitalism as like a veil and thought that people didn't even know how oppressed they were because capitalism was seeped so deeply in our lives. Can't remember who the thinker was, nor do I remember who suggested I read it. Any idea?

Was it Karl Marx by any chance, although technically he wrote about communism?

Merritt · #**20783** 20th May 2020, 17:11

Now it's all hot and I'm having to have windows open, I'm reminded of how disturbing it is when you can overhear neighbours and people in the street. You know when you can only sort of hear what it is they're saying, and your brain interprets it as being about you?

I like it when the weather's sunny and warm, but it doesn't half bring out the paranoia in me.

Utopia · #**20784** 20th May 2020, 18:04

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deer

Whose strongly interested in socialism on here?
Years ago, someone recommended a book to me which was a critique of capitalism. I remember it mentioning capitalism as like a veil and thought that people didn't even know how oppressed they were because capitalism was seeped so deeply in our lives. Can't remember who the thinker was, nor do I remember who suggested I read it. Any idea?

Well, people will tell you otherwise but elements of socialism are compatible with capitalism. I think free commerce is one of the things that tends to naturally evolve in human societies, even amongst relatively isolated groups, they often tend to use some commodity to represent an intermediate for bartering (could be gold, silver, standard coins, or even seashells). Communism seems to evolve into something a lot like an absolute monarchy, which is another thing that societies have historically converged on - which has caused it's own tensions and revolutions throughout history. The thing is though, an elected government combined with a free-market has led to greater success for those societies in the long run (as a whole).

I wouldn't say I'm a die hard socialist, but I think we need to give people opportunities to do well and contribute, no matter what their skills happen to be. We also need to make some effort to redistribute the wealth, due go the inequalities that seem to occur with a free market society. Capitalist societies focused on technology and reasearch are better off overall, but some people feel left behind because of the way the wealth ends up being distributed. So in this country I would honestly be in favour of a moderate labour government. If it's too extreme it could actually end up hurting society as a whole.

Although, right now I just hope all this money printing doesn't break the financial system; I just hope it's a short and sharp recession. Looks like there are a couple of promising vaccines now, and deaths are slowing down so I'm feeling relieved we are now over the worst.

Mo34 · #**20785** 20th May 2020, 19:11

Too hot and tired. Not physically tired but a bit ppl tired.

Had a nice day though. Went to the lupin field, then back to town, then a long walk including round an old ruin, open fields, polo fields and woodland. Some bits where really busy though which I found a bit off putting. J knows lots of ppl and is very sociable so kept being introduced to ppl and stand chatting (at a distance) which I seem to have found surprisingly tiring. Have only just got home.

Had hopes my neighbour was out, but he arrived home 2 mins after me

And he's started with music...

Percy · #**20786** 20th May 2020, 19:20

^Could you not play classical music very loudly every time he comes home and plays his music?

Mo34 · #**20787** 20th May 2020, 19:56

yeah not a bad idea - or something annoying like the birdie song

Him and 2 other guys have just gone out weighted down with loads of booze in his van so I can only assume there going somewhere else to party tonight. He might be back later tho

Mike.Kzov · #**20788** 20th May 2020, 22:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rocket Spud

Thanks, matey. It's mostly the work situation, there's no end to it - think it's time to ask for my workload to be halved. Problem is when/if things go back to normal there's no guarantee that i'll get the other half back

I really need a new job.

Sounds tough. I hope you can find at least some time to unwind and do things you enjoy when you're not at work.

Rocket Spud · #**20789** 21st May 2020, 10:32

Meh.
Unwinding/drinking.
Things you enjoy/distractions.

It could be worse

LittleMissMouse · #**20790** 21st May 2020, 13:51

I think I've gone a little bit mad during this whole lockdown thing, I wonder if psychologists and psychiatrists are going to have a field day with this assessing all the different ways people have gone absolutely off the chain during all of this.

Everything is open here again now anyway, but given that I'm not one for going out much anyway the most exciting things I've done are a trip to Lush for some toothpaste and a trip to Starbucks just because it was practically empty when I walked past it on Sunday morning. It feels like everyone is all of a sudden making the most of being able to get out and about again and my life now is pretty much the same as it has been all through the lockdown phase. I have this weird feeling that theres 8-10 weeks of life that I need to catch up on and that I've missed out massively when the sad reality is that the past 8-10 weeks have pretty much been business as usual for me apart from the working from home bit.