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Dougella · #**25951** 9th May 2022, 19:41

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Originally Posted by Quietman

^I'm not really sure why I feel like this, how did you improve this?

Hmm, well part of it was just recognising that what I was worried about wasn't reality, (that everyone was looking at me and judging me negatively). But also that even if that was the case it really doesn't matter what strangers think, no-one really takes a huge amount of notice of others when they're out and if they look at me and think I'm weird for a moment it doesn't mean anything. It's not easy though! A book I read that was helpful was The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris.

Professor Willow · #**25952** 9th May 2022, 19:44

Kim Medcalf has returned to Eastenders (not sure how long ago because I rarely watch it nowadays) I fancied the pants off her when I was a teenager and damn she still looks fine nearly 20 years later.

Dougella · #**25953** 9th May 2022, 20:05

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Originally Posted by Lee S

I know what you mean. I've need a telephone medication review but I've been putting it off because I absolutely hate phone calls - especially talking to doctors.

I was told by my surgery that a pharmacist could do a medication review, so I had a phone appointment where she asked me a few questions about how my medication was going and that was it. Could be worth finding out if you could do that. I think nurse practitioners can do medication reviews aswell.

Quietman · #**25954** 9th May 2022, 20:24

^ Crafty Elf we could become super heroes and help people.

^^^Lee I hate talking to the doctors, they say a review but its only two questions and they are gone all that anxiety its never worth it, could you request a face to face?

Quietman · #**25955** 9th May 2022, 21:52

I like it i'll start designing my costume.

Just found out my mom's phone bill is £71.00 as mobile data was left on and the phone kept updating its my fault but thats wiped me out and a waste too terrible.

biscuits · #**25956** 10th May 2022, 04:14

I can't seem to maintain an optimum body temperature. I get really cold. Then I wrap up and get really hot and dizzy. I just woke up feeling like I've been in an ice bath. Now I'm trying to to stay awake until I feel warm so I can take a few layers off before I get too hot. It's like a really un-fun version of strip poker.

choirgirl · #**25957** 10th May 2022, 17:26

I feel like I would like to pay someone poor and affirming to hear me rant for three days (with scheduled breaks!) about my lesbian woes/formative experiences and how it's tangled with everything else. And another thing! Another thing that annoys/upsets me/that I've remembered! Ideally they wouldn't see my face though. I like the idea of setting up a confession booth but I'd like a comfy seat. This seems like the sort of thing you could pay for in Japan. Rent someone who is going to act as a saintly (it's okay, you're paying them) affirmative person. I would literally pay for this if I could find the right person but I don't think I'd want someone to know everything about me and who I am.

choirgirl · #**25958** 10th May 2022, 17:35

I also think that one of my biggest problems is struggling to cope well with negative emotions. I've been struggling with it again for the last five years or so, because I've lost my desire to move forward. Managing grief, anger, depression, anxiety, disappointed expectations, resentment, etc etc while being productively patient and moving your life forward bit by bit, adjusting your sails as you go.

Quietman · #**25959** 10th May 2022, 17:44

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Originally Posted by Lee S

I did it. They said I don't need to speak to a doctor, they will just get the doctor to reauthorise my meds

Well done Lee,

, my GP gave me 56 tablets, so I don’t need to go back anytime soon.

Rocket Spud · #**25960** 13th May 2022, 19:47

Beer time!

genovese · #**25961** 13th May 2022, 20:05

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Originally Posted by Rocket Spud

Beer time!

Sometimes I don't feel like a proper adult because I have zero beer/lager desire.i get the getting drunk part. But the gassy, bitter ingestion method has always bamboozled me.

I'm turning into George

Rocket Spud · #**25962** 13th May 2022, 20:16

^^^ Ha, George turning up at a party with pepsi and .. Ringdings? Whatever the hell those are!

I don't have any bad reactions from booze apart from the hangover (which is lessening as i age

). I don't get drunk neither. I get a merry buzz and ride it for as long as possible. I can't do other drugs (as much as i'd like to) because they aren't good for my head.

genovese · #**25963** 13th May 2022, 20:35

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Originally Posted by Rocket Spud

^^^ Ha, George turning up at a party with pepsi and .. Ringdings? Whatever the hell those are!.

That's the one!

"I show up with Ring Dings and Pepsi, I become the biggest hit of the party. People would be coming up to me, "Just between you and me, I'm really excited about the Ring Dings and the Pepsi."

I had to look them up. They're another Drake's product

Mellie · #**25964** 14th May 2022, 20:54

Completly lost my trust in people

choirgirl · #**25965** 15th May 2022, 01:09

I didn't go to my LGBT meetup today. I was all ready, but then my social battery died. It wasn't nerves; I just really couldn't cope with speaking to people. I could barely cope with speaking to my dad. I would be hopeless at being in a typical relationship even if I were desirable; I'm sorry, I just don't want to talk to you or anyone today, maybe check on me at 10 pm, wouldn't wash with most people.

Dougella · #**25966** 15th May 2022, 10:38

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Originally Posted by choirgirl

I didn't go to my LGBT meetup today. I was all ready, but then my social battery died. It wasn't nerves; I just really couldn't cope with speaking to people. I could barely cope with speaking to my dad. I would be hopeless at being in a typical relationship even if I were desirable; I'm sorry, I just don't want to talk to you or anyone today, maybe check on me at 10 pm, wouldn't wash with most people.

Maybe not a lot of people, but some people would be ok with that. Some people might even feel the same.

Consolida · #**25967** 15th May 2022, 15:04

On a less serious note, I'm thinking how early is too early to have my tea/dinner/evening meal? I'm meant to be dieting but all I can think about is food

Dougella · #**25968** 15th May 2022, 15:06

^ No, eat if you're hungry! It's important to eat regularly, especially if you're trying to lose a bit of weight.

Alone. · #**25969** 15th May 2022, 15:23

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Originally Posted by Dougella

^ No, eat if you're hungry! It's important to eat regularly, especially if you're trying to lose a bit of weight.

If you wanna lose weight go keto. You naturally become less hungry on keto, for most people. Fat also makes you full surprisingly easily.

Dougella · #**25970** 15th May 2022, 15:32

^ I think it's important to be careful of specific plans which cut out food groups. Better to concentrate on overall good nutrition, lowering calories a bit and doing some more exercise. But that's just my view.

Consolida · #**25971** 15th May 2022, 17:30

^ Yes, I share the same view.

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Originally Posted by Dougella

^ No, eat if you're hungry! It's important to eat regularly, especially if you're trying to lose a bit of weight.

I try not to eat between meals and think my diet is reasonably healthy but getting regular daily exercise is a big problem because, thanks to SA, I don't like walking around my local neighbourhood. I went out for a 5 1/2 mile walk yesterday (not in my neighbourhood) but I know that's meaningless if exercise isn't a regular daily occurrence.

@ Alone Is the Keto diet similar to the Atkins diet? I knew someone who quickly lost a lot of weight on that but it seemed to entail them eating plates of meat

Losing 14 pounds or so shouldn't be so hard but i think climbing Mount Everest may be easier!

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Dougella · #**25973** 15th May 2022, 17:36

^^ 5 1/2 miles is a lot, even if you do that once a week I would say that's great! Me and my partner have been trying to go for a walk once a week recently but often it's only for half an hour. Still, I think something is better than nothing if you know what I mean.

Alone. · #**25974** 15th May 2022, 18:02

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Originally Posted by Dougella

^ I think it's important to be careful of specific plans which cut out food groups. Better to concentrate on overall good nutrition, lowering calories a bit and doing some more exercise. But that's just my view.

Keto is generally safe though.

Alone. · #**25975** 15th May 2022, 18:05

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Originally Posted by Consolida

^ Yes, I share the same view.

I try not to eat between meals and think my diet is reasonably healthy but getting regular daily exercise is a big problem because, thanks to SA, I don't like walking around my local neighbourhood. I went out for a 5 1/2 mile walk yesterday (not in my neighbourhood) but I know that's meaningless if exercise isn't a regular daily occurrence.

@ Alone Is the Keto diet similar to the Atkins diet? I knew someone who quickly lost a lot of weight on that but it seemed to entail them eating plates of meat

Losing 14 pounds or so shouldn't be so hard but i think climbing Mount Everest may be easier!

I think Atkins concentrates more on protein intake whereas keto is more about eating more fat.

Quietman · #**25976** 15th May 2022, 18:16

^ I tend to row for 60 mins a day, I have not done it lately, I have a brand new rower in the box to replace my old one since March but I cant be bothered.

I used to love my 60 mins exercise, I think it improves mental health as well.

Consolida, I think fasting is good too where you eat all your calories in a 6 hour window and then eat nothing until the next day window I used to do 6am to 12 noon and then no more food until 6am the next day.

Consolida · #**25977** 15th May 2022, 22:38

^ I think you should get your new rower out of that box and give it a go. I mean, what have you got to lose and maybe, just maybe, you might feel a little better for awhile afterwards

Thank you for your suggestion about Fasting. I've heard others recommend this for losing weight. It's worth considering, although I'm not sure I'd want to miss out on sitting down for dinner in the evening with my son or I'd hardly see him at all. Does it sound like I'm trying to make excuses here

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Originally Posted by Dougella

^^ 5 1/2 miles is a lot, even if you do that once a week I would say that's great! Me and my partner have been trying to go for a walk once a week recently but often it's only for half an hour. Still, I think something is better than nothing if you know what I mean.

Yes, something is always better than nothing

Dougella · #**25978** 15th May 2022, 23:12

^ I've heard people talking about the fasting and eating window thing, but I like eating too much to try that

12 hours between when I stop eating at night and have breakfast in the morning is going to have to do.

Alone. · #**25979** 15th May 2022, 23:39

^Seriously on keto it's surprising how satiated you feel after a meal with lots of fat. Intermittent fasting isn't hard usually on keto.

Dougella · #**25980** 15th May 2022, 23:53

^ Sadly I also very much enjoy carbs, so keto wouldn't be for me. But I know some people do well on that type of diet so each to their own.