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Old 30th March 2019, 08:39
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Thinking about the really long list of things i need to do today since i did so little yesterday. I won't die if I don't do them so its tempting to just say ....what the hell and not....but that kinds situation just escalates.
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Old 30th March 2019, 19:02
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Need to get some booze soon, get my arse in gear.
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Old 30th March 2019, 19:05
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Lucky you :p
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Old 30th March 2019, 19:18
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Oi, you shouldn't be thinking in those terms - it's 'a waste of money' to you, okay?
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Old 30th March 2019, 19:21
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there's a difference between not being able to and wanting to :p

A waste of money? You are putting it mildly there lol
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Old 30th March 2019, 19:26
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I'm looking at the baked potato I've just cooked and thinking I could actually die eating this! :/
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Old 30th March 2019, 20:22
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I do think the way the left shut down the views of people they disagree with is very sad especially when they use misrepresentation to do it. The behaviour of the left really is disgusting, they clearly have no shame, however they should be filled with it.

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Old 30th March 2019, 20:27
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there's a difference between not being able to and wanting to :p

A waste of money? You are putting it mildly there lol
I've thought this through .. and it doesn't apply to me

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Old 30th March 2019, 21:07
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^ yeah, you seem to drink in moderation though, right?
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Old 30th March 2019, 21:23
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^^^I can never get through a full video of a youtuber! They are just self-centred dummies from what I've seen!

slightly judgmental of me but she seems exactly the type I'm talking about.
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Old 30th March 2019, 22:04
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I wouldn't agree with that. You get all types on YouTube, just as in life. I watch nice art tutorials, programming tutorials, workout related stuff. Something for every taste is on there, you just have to find what you like.
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Old 30th March 2019, 22:40
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Same with any popularised platform though. A bulk of shit material is to be expected.
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Old 30th March 2019, 23:04
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^ yeah, you seem to drink in moderation though, right?
I'd say so, yeah. One day of the week i have a little blowout - i don't get upto much - i'm pretty consistant - no surprises.
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Old 31st March 2019, 00:17
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^There is no chance I could maintain that lol When I start thinking I can drink like that, that is when things go tits up for me.

I take it you are feeling better anyhow :p
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Old 31st March 2019, 02:57
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Just woken up and wondering if the time has automatically changed on my phone and watch.
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Old 31st March 2019, 11:41
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^^ Soon as I said it, I thought to myself, I bet I start thinking about the vain aspects of myself and I did lol

I stick to my point though, plenty of phonies on youtube!
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Old 31st March 2019, 15:53
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Where am I going to live when I split up with my bf.
I do still have a room at home with parents but they have basically said that if I do come back I can't stop for long because they need the space.
I can't afford to rent something more than just a room in a house share and I couldn't cope with that.
I don't have any friends I could stay with and getting any form of social housing is probably remote.

Why did I stay with the **** for so long

FML
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Old 31st March 2019, 17:33
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^^ D1162, you are essentially homeless so I would definitely register on your local social housing list as soon as possible. Inform them that your parents have allowed you to stay temporarily and that you will have no where to live after that.

Not sure if you are still working or not but if you think you will struggle contact an organisation like citizens advice who will support you with whatever financial guidance you need as well as moving!

Also the turn2us website has a lot of information and contacts for these kinds of issues.

You never know man, things could start picking up for you but try not to just give in because there are still some options for you to look at.
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Old 31st March 2019, 21:56
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Reminiscing about the days I used to pretend I was the undertaker by putting pyjama bottoms on my head and jumping from the top of the wardrobe ha!

Was always slightly awkward when someone walked in my room.

Wearing pyjama bottoms on your head was slightly taboo in them days :/
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Old 1st April 2019, 08:29
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^I hope that wasn't last week
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Old 1st April 2019, 10:20
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^ I'm sometimes tempted to, I have to say haha
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Old 1st April 2019, 13:58
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I wish depression could give more physical symptoms so it could be taking more seriously. Seems like you have to be almost suicidal before anyone can help.
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Old 1st April 2019, 16:22
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^ It can be really frustrating Tom. What help have you tried to get?
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Old 1st April 2019, 18:27
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Must attempt to read one of my books tonight! My stack of books is piling up and I haven't read any of them.
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Old 1st April 2019, 19:29
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Your sister sounds adorable

daydreams are the best. You know, I get disappointed because I barely dream that much now for some reason. I had one the other night/morning and oh, I just wanted to close my eyes and fall back into a dream again.

Well I've decided on reading Coyote Blue by Christopher Moore (I have no idea who he is either). I was going to read Huckleberry Finn but thought I would read a shorter book first and see if I get into the habit of reading again.

Right, going to get started with it now so everyone ssssshhhh! :p

Biscuits, it sounds like a robot would be ideal for you
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Old 1st April 2019, 19:53
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^ It can be really frustrating Tom. What help have you tried to get?
I've done 6-8 week CBT group sessions but they aren't long enough and you still need motivation to go to them. Most effective treatment has been meds but they only work for so long and you have to be in a bad way to even get them, at least around here anyway. I wish there was more 1 to 1 support available that didn't cost significant amounts or involve a long waiting time.
If I could see a therapist weekly for 6 months then I'm fairly sure it would be a lot more effective than meds. Sadly that would cost a lot of money.

I feel the walls are slowly closing in on me again after a 6 month "reprieve", the last week especially has been exhausting mentally. Trying to do stuff like dating while also fighting myself is too much. Why is finding a life partner such a ****ing ballache?
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Old 1st April 2019, 20:28
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Aye Tom, mental health services are mostly pretty bog standard! I have a similar issue in my area. A lot of them just aren't getting the funding they need.

What about speaking to a local mental health organisation and seeing if they are able to direct you in the right direction, or maybe even offer something that appeals to you?

It really does feel like clawing your way out of sand to get the necessary help like! It has driven me to despair at times too.

I would say, if the dating is frustrating you, take a step back from it mate. I guess my solution to that was to lower my expectations for myself.

Not to make this about me but I had such a shitty time last year, and it took its toll at the beginning of January that now I find I don't think ahead as much anymore. It is just way too much to contend with. I start worrying about, what if I end up on benefits for the rest of my life. What if I never get to travel and explore parts of the world. What if I am in the same boat in ten years. What if I never find a partner, and it goes on and on and on! So since beginning of January, as dull as it sounds, I just concentrate on today. Not really out of choice though but just thinking too far ahead weighs too much on me!
In the past, I had tried the 'if you don't put the effort in, you won't get anywhere' approach and the 'fake it until you make it' attitude but I just couldn't maintain it.

I guess now, I just think well this is the cards I've been dealt, fighting it doesn't help so might as well just give in to it and have a healthy bit of hope also.

I'm not sure I done this consciously though but more I just got fed up of never reaching my expectations and just began to seem easier not to have them. So being alone doesn't really bother me because I tried having relationships and I wasn't really any happier in many ways. I really cared for them but it was also exhausting for me.

I dunno man, suppose we just got to try different ways and see how it works out, you know?! But *big hugs* man, I definitely understand your frustration and I do feel for you. It sometimes feels like we are desperately shouting and punching into the air. Or shouting help to a crowd of people covering their ears.
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Old 1st April 2019, 21:10
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^ Hey, hey, heyyyy....don't be too hard on yourself, D.

Well, that sounds like a plan... temporarily move back in with your parents and the fact that you can only stay for a bit will be motivation to get something else sorted. All sounds positive

You stayed with him for so long because breaking up with someone is horrible and no one likes to have to do something like that. But now it sounds like you are ready - have those plans ready for what you're gonna do next and then you won't feel so lost. It'll feel like moving on.

Hope you're okay
Thank you for the reply Biscuits
I'm trying and failing to see anything positive in the current situation, I guess it came as a bit of a shock that my mum doesn't want me back.

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^^ D1162, you are essentially homeless so I would definitely register on your local social housing list as soon as possible. Inform them that your parents have allowed you to stay temporarily and that you will have no where to live after that.

Not sure if you are still working or not but if you think you will struggle contact an organisation like citizens advice who will support you with whatever financial guidance you need as well as moving!

Also the turn2us website has a lot of information and contacts for these kinds of issues.

You never know man, things could start picking up for you but try not to just give in because there are still some options for you to look at.
Thanks Johnny for the information
I am working but not earning a great deal and I believe that being self employed counts against me when trying to get financial / housing support.
Truthfully I don't really know where to start when it comes to housing, I always thought I would be able to afford my own house one day but the chances of that are looking bleaker by the day.
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Old 1st April 2019, 21:22
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https://www.turn2us.org.uk/Benefit-g...tly-asked-ques


There you go buddy :p
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Old 1st April 2019, 21:31
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And, if you are struggling to cope with all the stress of it all, definitely contact Citizens Advice and an advisor will help take the burden off your shoulders

But a good place to start would be registering on the social housing list. Pretty sure you can do this online.

As politely as possible, forget what your parents and your boyfriend thinks or decide to do, man. If you focus on what they think too much it will just drag you down. Just take the next step that is best for you regardless of how insignificant that step might seem
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