How is everyone feeling? (31)

[Tembo]

Originally Posted by gregarious_introvert

You have many friends here, Consolida; I'm guessing that most of those people with real life "friends" don't show half the compassion, support and understanding for others that you do here, constantly and for everyone.

You're a wonderful human being.

Hear hear!

Consolida, you’re not a horrible person, that’s for sure.

I’m the opposite in the sense that I’m lucky to have a few friends, but haven’t come anywhere close to forming a romantic relationship. I can’t think of many people my age who arn’t in a relationship, or who haven’t had one in the past. That makes me very sad sometimes. In that sense, I feel an absolute failure, and I sometimes tell myself I must be ugly or have a wierd personality. But we really mustn't be so hard on ourselves!

[gregarious_introvert]

^ You're not ugly; as for the personality, you probably need someone less weird than I to judge.

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[3stacks]

I always feel at 28 its too late to fix my life and get some sort of education plus I don't think anyone will ever date me. Who would want to date someone who hasn't been in a relationship and is a loser in life. It's quite depressing

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[BFG_]

^28 lol you're still a baby! Get enrolled.

I'm 44 does that mean I'm a geriatric?

[Dougella]

^^ No, 28 is young! You can do anything you want to and many people from here have had their first relationships at older ages than that.

[anxiouslondoner]

Landlord wanted to replace the carpets in the two bedrooms in this flat.
So I had to move almost everything into the lounge, not furniture but all the contents.
The lounge is now up to the ceiling with boxes and crates, utterly no space left.
The two guys came to replace the carpets this morning.
I've moved enough computer stuff back into my "office" to do some work with.
I'm glad it's over, but now I have to move everything back... also in the process my bed, which was broken and on its last legs anyway, became unusable and has been thrown out. So now I'm sleeping on a mattress or the sofabed until I can get a new one delivered.
I'm stressed and tired...

[Consolida]

^ It must be nice having new carpets down but yes, it can be mega stressful having strangers coming into your home. We keep delaying having things done because we can't face having workmen in. Maybe next year...

Originally Posted by Dougella

^ You're not at all! I'm in the same situation in terms of real life friends.

Thanks
The thing is, I don't even have any non real life friends anymore but, to be fair, I'm truly awful at maintaining friendships especially when a bout of depression takes hold and I retreat into isolation mode.

Originally Posted by gregarious_introvert

^^ and me.


You have many friends here, Consolida; I'm guessing that most of those people with real life "friends" don't show half the compassion, support and understanding for others that you do here, constantly and for everyone.

You're a wonderful human being.

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I'm not sure I agree with any of that, but thank you so much for your support and kind words, it means a lot

Originally Posted by Chess&Junkfood

Consolida Anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend.

That's sweet of you to say Chess, but I wouldn't make a good friend to anyone these days

Originally Posted by biscuits

@Consolida - social anxiety does what it says on the tin and it can be a huge barrier when it comes to forming friendships. It's definitely not that it's a case that you're horrible because...well, that's like thinking chocolate buttons are horrible - an impossible thought! It's just that social anxiety makes it really challenging to make and maintain friendships because of the socialising element.

I know you're right but.....ah, when I get into that negative mindset it's hard to believe that there's not something intrinsically horrid about me.

Originally Posted by Tembo

Hear hear!

Consolida, you’re not a horrible person, that’s for sure.

I’m the opposite in the sense that I’m lucky to have a few friends, but haven’t come anywhere close to forming a romantic relationship. I can’t think of many people my age who arn’t in a relationship, or who haven’t had one in the past. That makes me very sad sometimes. In that sense, I feel an absolute failure, and I sometimes tell myself I must be ugly or have a wierd personality. But we really mustn't be so hard on ourselves!

Thank you Tembo

You come across as so lovely on here and, as Chess said to me regarding friends, I think anyone would be lucky to have you as their partner! But of course easier said than done when social anxiety is thrown into the mix

Originally Posted by 3stacks

I always feel at 28 it's too late to fix my life get some sort of education plus I don't think anyone will ever date me. Who would want to date someone who hasn't been in a relationship and is a loser in life. It's quite depressing

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Nooo, 28 isn't too late, definitely not!! You still have many years ahead of you to achieve some of your hopes and dreams, and sooner rather than later, if you can stop some of those self sabotaging thoughts because you are most certainly NOT a loser.

[anxiouslondoner]

Stressed because I'm a selfish idiot.

[Tembo]

@Consolida thanks for your kind reply

Originally Posted by 3stacks

I always feel at 28 its too late to fix my life and get some sort of education plus I don't think anyone will ever date me. Who would want to date someone who hasn't been in a relationship and is a loser in life. It's quite depressing

It’s not too late 3stacks, especially as you are still in your 20s. Same for relationships too. And no one needs to know you haven’t been in a relationship before - you can just say ‘it’s been a while’ or something like that.

[Consolida]

^^^ Thank you NeverWas

^^ Ohhh I don't believe that you're an idiot AL and it's not selfish at all if you put your own emotional and physical needs first sometimes

^ You're welcome Tembo


I'm feeling a mental and physical wreck.

[Consolida]

^ If I remember rightly (apologies if I've got this wrong) you are a vegan so I reckon you should feel far less guilty about being alive than the majority of people in this World who consume animal products and generally give little thought to all the poor creatures they are sharing this planet with. Also, if you don't have any offspring then I think you are doing everything that is humanely possible as an individual in preserving the natural world and environment. As for the bugs that scurry across our paths, sadly it's impossible not to trample some of them underfoot and so I guess all anyone can do is to not purposely hurt or kill them if we value their existence.

[NoisyKoala]

I feel guilty for wanting to be selfish. I care too much about everyone, about my family. I always listen to their problems, always trying to help them.
But sometimes I just want to switch it off and go alone somewhere far away where there's no internet, no phones. Is it too much, or there are others who feel the same?

[Bluebear]

Originally Posted by NoisyKoala

I feel guilty for wanting to be selfish. I care too much about everyone, about my family. I always listen to their problems, always trying to help them.
But sometimes I just want to switch it off and go alone somewhere far away where there's no internet, no phones. Is it too much, or there are others who feel the same?

I don't think you are being selfish. I feel the same

[Mr. Nobody]

Originally Posted by The Devil, Probably.

here I am crushing bugs under foot with every other step and draining the earth's resources, to keep this heart beating.

This is why I think bat's, birds and spiders should be exterminated, they eat SO MANY poor little defenceless flys and other innocent nsects, just to go on living,

I saw a spider once capture a fly in it's web and wrap it up "for later" I was utterly outraged and traumatised at this great injustice, and cried for days,
I held a small memorial service for little freddy, and still fondly remember him,
Life just won't be the same without him buzzing about in my life.

[biscuits]

Thank you Neville Was - I can't count that many ^^^s

It feels like someone has gone to town on my throat with a blow torch. OUCH.

[anxiouslondoner]

I know I mentioned that I had some health problems recently.
Well I'm pleased to say that I got the all clear today. Which is a huge load off my mind.
I'm off work for two weeks from Saturday. I'm going to relax and let myself forget all about it.

[Dougella]

^ That's really good news, you must be relieved

[Tubbs]

^^ That's really good to hear AL. Enjoy your well-deserved break

[Chess&Junkfood]

That's good to hear, AL!

[biscuits]

Amazing, al! Perfectly timed with the two weeks to relax as well!

[Dougella]

The guy from the water company has arrived and is looking at the drain, finally! So I am feeling pleased.

[Jen.]

Originally Posted by anxiouslondoner

I know I mentioned that I had some health problems recently.
Well I'm pleased to say that I got the all clear today. Which is a huge load off my mind.
I'm off work for two weeks from Saturday. I'm going to relax and let myself forget all about it.

That's great news! Hope you enjoy the break.

[anxiouslondoner]

Thanks everyone!
^^ hope your plumbing issues are less unpleasant than mine were, Dougella!

[Dougella]

^ It was unpleasant but I'm sure if you had personal plumbing issues that was much worse!

[Blackflies]

Regretful. I feel like I have the potential to be a nice happy go lucky kind person but my patience keeps being tested. Ended up sending a distasteful text that I tried all day not to send and then snapped at my Mum within minutes of sending it, all because you know people aren’t self aware enough to know when to stop. Also have had a crippling migraine for the last hour which is probably my premature dose of karma kicking in early.

[choirgirl]

Unmotivated and depressed, and feeling faintly guilty about it cos things could be a lot worse.

[Tubbs]

Ugh, why am I having so many migraines recently. A perma-migraine. Bought some anti-sickness tablets but they don't do squat.

[Amara 94]

Idk I’m no expert but it can be diet, maybe eating too little for the amount of energy you are using, not having enough electrolytes as in salt, sodium and potassium. Stress, a certain stimuli in your environment. But I’m no expert so I’m just guessing.

[BFG_]

^^i saw a thing recently dunno if it was serious where they said the solution to migraines was to stand in a bowl of the hottest water you can put up with.

Can't remember the reasoning behind it.

[biscuits]

^ blood flow, I'd guess?

Have you been to opticians to see if it's anything eye strain related?